Guest Post – Sonja from www.espressoshotofmedicine.com.
Sonja Adzovic is the author/owner of Espresso Shot of Medicine. She is a doctor whose passion help women lead the healthy and happy lives they’ve always wanted!
What you can do about it
You deserve to live the life you want! And stress shouldn’t get in the way of that. So let’s begin A Millennial Doctor’s Guide to Dealing with Moving Stress!
A Millennial Doctor’s Guide to Dealing with Moving Stress
1. Think about what is stressing you out
It sounds simple, but it is so important!
Research has shown that by identifying our emotions, we can better deal with them. Simply saying, “I am stressed.” or “I am frustrated.” can help ease our feelings.
Many people think that when we are feeling a negative emotion, we can solve it by:
- Not thinking out it
- Trying to convince ourselves that everything is going to be fine
- Telling ourselves that we shouldn’t feel this way
But actually, the opposite is true – it allows us to calm down.
So take advantage of this! Start saying out loud how you feel, with no judgment. Just this little step can be beneficial!
In the past 7 years, I have moved 9 times!
And the first few times, I experienced intense levels of stress.
After many sleepless nights, I realized that something needed to change. So, I started to learn as much as I could about stress.
Reading medical research about stress was a game-changer! I learned all these new tools that I could use to deal with stress. This article is what I have found out from all this research
It’s certainly been a game-changer for me! Before I used to judge myself for feeling a certain negative feeling. I now accept it.
Right away I feel better. And I call out to you to give it a try!
2. Why is it stressing you out
If you’re able to accurately label that you are stressed out, try thinking about why you are feeling this way.
In terms of moving, could it be any of these things?
- You feel like you have to do everything yourself.
- You feel that you are not in control.
- You feel like something is going to go wrong.
If you can identify what it is that is causing you these feelings, don’t try to change it. Accept it for now!
3. Can you let it go?
After seeing how you are really feeling and seeing why you are feeling this way, think about whether you can let it go.
Don’t force yourself to let it go if you can’t! Just think about it. If you can’t let it go, it’s fine. Leave yourself alone! You’re doing the best you can!
4. Utilizing social resources
When moving, it often feels like there is so much to do. We feel overwhelmed.
Having a friend or family member to join in on the experience can be so helpful! Even if they are not actively helping you move, having them there to make you a coffee, make a joke, is amazing! It can make the whole experience more enjoyable!
5. Managing expectations
Sometimes we demand so much from ourselves! We want everything to go perfectly without any problems.
This can’t always be the case. Especially when it comes to moving, there are so many things that could be delayed or forgotten. And that is fine! For the most part, whatever we forget can be replaced.
So realizing that:
- We won’t we able to control everything
- That this is FINE
Goes a long way!
6. Preparing for things that could go wrong
Even if we can accept that not everything will perfectly, we can still prepare for possible problems.
I sometimes make a list of things that could go wrong. I do this for two reasons.
- Writing it down makes me realize that it is not the major disaster I thought it was
- I can then think of a possible situation in advance
It certainly has helped! Most things don’t happen, but having this security definitely takes some stress off!
7. Self-care routines
There are certain things that we can do that can help decrease stress. For everyone it is different. Trying different things is the best way to see what works for you.
Some ideas are:
- Deep breathing
- Mindfulness practices
- Reflective thinking or writing
- Anything else that makes you happy and takes your mind off of work and stressors
8. Nutrition and exercise
When we are moving it’s so difficult to find time to do anything, never mind exercise! I get it. So when I say exercise, I mean:
- Taking a walk around the street
- Taking the stairs
- Walking to pick up your take-out meal instead of having it delivered
Even simple things like that can decrease our stress levels!
Packing up a kitchen makes it fairly impossible to cook. But instead of ordering pizza, why not find a more healthy option?
If you’re moving out, I’m sure you know of a neighborhood place where you can find a healthy food option.
If you’ve just moved in, why not take the opportunity to explore your new neighborhood by finding a great healthy place.
By looking for it, you’ll even get some exercise!
9. Attitude check
Lastly, don’t forget that this is an exciting moment!
You’ve spent time in this place that you are leaving. It is full of memories. You’ve had good moments and hard moments. You’ve gotten through it all and it’s made you a richer person.
The new place you are going to will be full of new and exciting adventures! Full of new hope and opportunity.
As you leave your old place and move to your new place, don’t forget to enjoy the moment.
Learning how to deal with stress has been a huge change for me!
I still have moments where I get stressed out. But knowing how to deal with it has truly changed my life for the better!
I sleep normally. I stay calm and happy. I am more patient with the people around me.
What I do is say how I’m feeling. This has been so beneficial because I realize that it is not as bad as I think and it calms me down.
- Go for long walks
- Do yoga
- Write in my journal
- Eat way too much chocolate!
This is really what I do regularly. But I make much more of an effort to do it when I am moving. It’s hard to find the time sometimes. But I know that it’s so important that I find that time!
It’s so important because it allows me to deal with moving stress.
It’s so important because it allows me to lead the life I deserve.
We all want to do so much that we often get so stressed out!
We eventually burn out and take a long time to recover. Having burnt out many times, I want to share my personal experience from a doctor’s point of view so that everyone can lead the life he deserves! Happy and healthy!
That’s why I’m offering you my Burnout Prevention Journal for the Busy Professional!
A guided journal to help you deal with your anxiety and motivate you to take control of your health and stress!
You deserve to lead the life you want!
Have a lovely week!
“You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will” – Stephen King
By Sonja – www.espressoshotofmedicine.com